Saw this headline sometime early this month, I was a bit taken by the fact that Vermont is the fourth U.S. state to have gay marriage laws which accept the legality of gay matrimony. There is now 29 states (one of which is notably California) that have lifted the constitutional ban on such unions in. Not long after the headline, there was news from India that gay marriage is legalized there as well.
What’s with this wave really? Are we so eager to make history? I am not against gay marriage. I am happily married with my wife (and yes, she is a … she, of course ;P). So, I have no interest in joining this fight. As always, I stand by and give my two-cents worth of thoughts.
So why? I don’t know. Sorry, I didn’t do gay history. I don’t even know when the word “gay” was invented. I am not sure if the word “gay” is offensive anymore. Is it supposed to mean another sex now? I mean when I fill in a government application form, do I have see a new checkbox? I believe some forms have to be modified now. One for sure is the marriage registration form or whatever you call that in your country.
To me, this wave has its impacts, for sure. Like every normal marriage, every couple faces the possibility of separating. What about divorce for the gay marriages? It’s easy from the surface but most countries protect women and their rights through Women’s Act. If both women are happily married and angrily divorced, who should get what? Sounds like a new market for lawyers huh? There is also no laws to prevent a person to be married both sexes from time to time. This could happen too, isn’t it? Mood changes and we, as consumer, are already changing our tastes so rapidly nowadays that no one keeps their favourite car for more than 10 years anymore.
I am not trying to stop thing from happening. It already happened and is moving fast. I can accept this fact. The point is I am not a parent yet. Imagine your children choose their paths in such a way (not that it’s disgraceful anymore). How would you feel? If you are fine, I believe you have what it takes to face the future. If not, I suggest you get yourself prepared, starting from right now. Let me help you a bit. Imagine a gay channel in TV soon. A regular TV program for gay in your favourite channel. Advertisements targeted at gays on all media that you are exposed to. And more realistically, your neighbour could be them too. Are you used to word, gay now? No? I strongly feel that the word has been polluted too much over the years. The next alternative, homosexual, sounds worse (more like a medical term describing freak to me). Since it is making history, I feel the related parties or organisations should start thinking of a better term to label themselves. I am rather superstitious in such things. In short, take my advice. No one pays for a stone until you call it a diamond.
Finally, for a record to mankind, I would like to congratulate everyone to complete all the combination for marriage. Simple statistics tell you that for 2 different sexes, there are 4 combinations which are possible. For more than 2 millennium, we have our options to just 2 and now we have leapfrogged 2 times. You don’t have to perform sex change to marry someone of your sex. You are free to choose anyone now to be your … er … partner. I hope I can write in a more universal, “unisex” way in future, so that I won’t be bothered by the “he or she” or “they” usage. Think it would be tougher for my kids to decide who to go out with. By the way, if a guy is sexually harassed, in the eyes of the court, by another guy, what should be the verdict? It’s already tough to debate between a man and a woman. What if it’s a woman who “rapes” (correct me if I am wrong in the choice of word) another?
You can say that I am just not too ready for all these. Or maybe I think too much. It takes time. I am quite certain that I will get used to it. Because I don’t think it’s going to go away. Nonetheless, the gay population is not so significant in today’s world. There is room for growth. God knows what will happen (I didn’t forget you ya). One day, our future generations might be marrying his or her or its robot, dog, car, TV or anything that is recognized in the law.
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